Recently my husband and I were watching TV and a commercial came on for a very popular wedding gown designer's new casual clothes line.  I was so stunned by what I saw I actually backed the commercial up to do a double-take and sure enough my first glance was correct; one of the models was so emaciated that her vertebrae were protruding from her skin. Considering the old adage that the camera adds ten pounds, I can only imagine how truly skinny this young girl must have been to be so visibly skeletal.  When I pointed this out to my husband he turned away, groaning in disgust.   I made the comment, "well, sadly, that's what sells as sexy these days."  to which he replied, "there is NOTHING sexy about that."

I thought about his comment and all the people who I've known who are trying to get to a certain pant or dress size, all so they can feel sexy, and I realized what a waste it is.  It became clear to me that Sexy isn't a size, sexy is an attitude.  Sexy is found in the confidence of a step, the curve of a hip, the trail of a laugh, the relaxed way in which a woman or man lives in their own skin. 

We don't need to wait to reach a certain weight to feel or be sexy.  Healthy, happy and confident may be just enough to do the trick at any size.  Plus, feeling sexy in the skin we are wearing now may be the perfect catalyst for taking better care of it and our body long into the future.